Worry is like the constant drip, drip, drip of water; and the constant drip, drip, drip of worry often drives men to insanity and suicide.Dale Carnegie
Emma , had a lot of emotional baggage and in addition to it ,she was always conscious about other’s opinion about her “self” , over years it became so rigid, that she was now living her life on the yardstick of people’s opinion, a life completely devoid of self control and regulation ,instead surrendered to others opinion.
In one of her grandparents funeral, she was late for the funeral service ,because it took her three good hours to decide what to wear for the occasion, her indecisiveness from choosing an attire delayed her visit, which then led to some strong comments coming in from other elders on her absence ,and that was followed by a bitter argument between her and someone very close ,which made her so filled with sorrow that she skipped her meals ,did not sleep properly and also ended up with multiple other arguments with others in order to explain ,why she was late .
What began as a reason for delay, ended up in verbal spats, bitter arguments ,reshaping equations between relationships.
Emma realized her part when she enrolled for a quick conversation with me ,followed by her long narrative and was asked some powerful coaching questions
This case is a shining example of those who lack self regulation and often land themselves in trouble, leading to constant stress, strained relations and a vicious circle of self pity.
It took us 2 years and more to work together and arrive at a clean slate where Emma explored her blind spots, began to take responsibility of her own “Self” and approached life as a lead and not a victim.
Blaming events ,things or others for any issues or problems is a thinking error,caught up in vicious circle of self pity ,the day we own our “self” we have found our way out …Mehnaz Amjad ,Coach & CBT practitioner
Own yourself ,and if you find yourself in need of help to overcome worries, don’t feel shy to seek help.
(c)Mehnaz Amjad 2020