Nancy sat in the morning sunshine seeking solace from the chill wind in the air, her silence is disturbed ,when she receives a call from her cousin brother, who live beyond continents in a different time zone.
Her cousin informs Nancy about the deteriorating health of his father ,after a brief conversation, and exchanged of some deep thoughts they end the call . Nancy is now left alone with many cherished memories of her uncle, she gets reminded that if her aunt was alive, who left her six years ago in the same month, would have today ,been celebrating her 43rd Anniversary.
With winter solstice , as the Sun again changes position, paving way for some warmth , Nancy reflected on the fleetingness of Time now trapped in the pictures, tucked in a family album of their life and happiness.
Nancy, sit silently trying to soak the realities of life along with the sunshine, she finds, while sun rays are way easy to penetrate , the realities of life on the other end demands effort .
Lost in her thoughts she has a sudden flash of memory, a moment she kept recollecting , it was before her aunt breathed her last ,she kept looking back at her husband ,as if she wanted to see him the one last time ,or perhaps was wondering who would take care of him after she is no more.
Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s trouble, it takes away today’s peace.
As human beings we constantly worry , after money, uncertainity is considered the top worry that occupies most of human mind .
If you also , like my client Nancy or her aunt struggle to stop your worrying thoughts & behavior, follow this;
- Emotions ,time and feelings are impermanent
- Nothing will last forever
- Time does not automatically heal grief, it only reduces the intensity
- Regardless of how good or bad time is, it will change
- Acceptance lays foundation for new growth
- Worries does not solve any problem
- The most effective way to end a worry behavior is through questioning thoughts
What do you worry about the most ?
(c)Mehnaz Amjad 2021
As a Grief Coach I help people move beyond grief and loss ,and become resilient.